Be YourSelf, Everyone Else is Already Taken

Hi I'm Deborah

Relationship Counsellor and Coach who loves helping people to like, understand and be themselves, and have great relationships, without compromising themselves.

Why is it so hard to be you?

Sometimes we don’t even know that we are not being ourselves. We feel unhappy, miserable, lonely, angry, hopeless, depressed and a host of other uncomfortable feelings, but we don’t know why we feel that way nor what to do about it.

Are you being you? Not sure? This quick 7 Signs download will help.

7 Signs that Reveal You are NOT Being Yourself

  • We suffer when we are not ourselves, when we retreat and hide from who we are.
  • We suffer when we change, and/or deny ourselves, for others.
  • We suffer when we hold ourselves responsible for other people’s actions and behaviour.
  • We suffer when we believe it’s our job to make other adults happy and put their needs, wants, and desires, before our own.
  • We suffer when we tolerate, and settle for, less than what we are worth or deserve.

STOP the Suffering!
Free YourSelf to Be who You Want to Be!

Join Selfie School

Selfie School is closed right now and opens again on the 1st of September - put your name on the waitlist here

'I joined Selfie School as I needed a re-boot. Going through a divorce, I started to doubt myself and I was feeling stressed with the thought of having to become financially independent. I felt better within two weeks of joining. The support from Deborah and the community was simply wonderful. I never had to worry about 'falling off the wagon', as the group literally 'picks you up' and inspires you to move forward. Thank you Debbie, this programme has changed my life and re-ignited my self-belief. If you are looking for a programme with a coach who is warm, caring and compassionate, someone who wants you to be your best self and live your best life, then Deborah and Selfie School is for you.'

Hampshire, UK

 'I joined Selfie School because I was struggling with self-love and believing in myself. I doubted my abilities and was always hesitant to get started with things that I love to do. I wanted to get to know myself better so that I can live with more direction and purpose in life. Within the first week, I already had a huge shift. I couldn't believe how easy it can be to start loving and appreciating yourself with the correct tools and tricks that we learned. I loved meeting other women with similar issues and how everyone helped each other to become better versions of themselves without any judgement. Selfie School kickstarted my self-awareness and helped me realise that I am enough, unique and worthy of a happy and meaningful life. This program is so real in the sense that we were able to deal with our sensitive issues in a safe and non-judgmental space. We had amazing support from Coach Debbie and she shared powerful and practical tools with us that we can apply in our daily lives while transforming. Thank you so much – I will forever be grateful.'

South Africa

 'I joined Selfie School as I wanted to learn how to love myself more. Debbie is such a lovely person and really wants to see you love yourself. She truly connects with you and understands what you are going through. She gives you tools to use to work through things that are happening in your life. I also loved the support I got from the community. I am very grateful to have been part of Selfie-School and our one to one coaching.'


 'I joined Selfie School because I wanted to understand myself better when it came to making new romantic relationships and I wanted to understand why I face imposter syndrome. The tools and tips we were taught really made me look at life in a different way. a.The most amazing thing about selfie school was the way it was approached with structure, yet there was also an ease to the way we did everything.  I’ve been telling people about how this is so much more women centric; you don’t feel like just another student or client, you feel like a part of a community of people. The support is incredible, I have resolved my imposter syndrome issue and I have clarity with regards to having a new romantic relationship.
I would recommend Selfie School any day. Even though at times we dealt with sadness and heavy topics, it also had a fun element and we celebrated the happy moments too.'


Selfie School opens again on the 1st of September
put your name on the waitlist here